In view of the unprecedented reports of incidents of rape in the country, this sensitisation has become imperative, more than ever before.
1. What is Rape? Rape is an act of sexual intercourse with an individual without his or her consent, through force or the threat of force.
2. Who is a Rapist? A rapist refers to the perpetrator usually male adults who forcefully seek pleasure by taking advantage of their victim. Although rape can occur among family members (incest), in same-sex intercourse. It is still considered rape even if the victims did not physically fight back, ex-lover or were friends with the perpetrator (Date Rape), are married or engaged to the rapist (Marital Rape), do not remember the rape incident or the perpetrator willingly ingests drugs or alcohol in the victim’s food or drink.
3. Possible Causes of Rape: These could be as a result of a personality disorder.
Individual factors: The victim is either known, drug facilitated or driven by sexual gratification from the perpetrator.
Psychological factors: Some perpetrators may misread cues given out by women in social situations. This category of rapists blames their victims for the act.
Social factors:Indecent dressing,Unguarded visitation of females to males,When male and female children sleep in the same room or same bed.
Economic factors: Poverty, hunger and food shortage, vulnerability.
Lack of sex education: The urge to explore is common among adolescent boys and, lack of accessibility and negligible interactions with the opposite sex play havoc on impressionable minds fed with easy access to pornographic materials.
Consequences of Rape: The physical, emotional and psychological reactions of victims of rape also vary but usually include:
Gynaecological disorders, reproductive disorders, sexual disorders, pelvic inflammatory disease, pregnancy complications, miscarriage, sexual dysfunction, contracting sexually transmitted infections including HIV/AIDS, mortality from injuries, increased risk of suicide among others.
4. Questions We Must Ask Ourselves.As a parent, who are your friends?What do you know about your children’s best friends?Do you know that even the most trusted friend can be a rapist?When was the last time you checked the call log and chats/messages in your child’s phone?Do you agree with the saying that ‘your children are not safe, until every other child out there is saved’?Are you aware that sexual hormones do not know who is a sibling or friend?Would it be wrong not to allow your children entertain their friend inside their rooms?5. Conselling Intervention.a. A victim should seek the assistance of a professional counsellor.b. Victims of rape should speak out on time; this will help to facilitate the emotional and psychological healing process.Say an emphatic NO to rape.
This message is from:STUDENTS’ GUIDANCE AND COUNSELLING CENTRE, UNIVERSITY OF BENIN